Ulterior Motives? Divorce Groups May Do More Damage To Marriage And Family Than Good

Every day the movement to support fathers in divorce grows. Organizations, both private and governmental, supporting fathers in their quest to gain custody and additional visitation rights as well as to lobby for reduced or total elimination of financial responsibly to the spouse/family from which they have separated are saturating the culture.

Unfortunately in order to achieve that kind of fiscal and physical autonomy from their ex-spouses the father’s support movement attacks mothers to gain in its objective. And it’s working.

It’s true that in decades past fathers have suffered great loss in family courts, but it is not necessarily true that they are always the victims of such loss, presently. In fact, the family court pendulum has swung in the other direction to do a very effective job of devastating the lives of women and children on a regular basis, at least as much as they have against men in the past. By doing so they have created a divide and conquer mindset in the general populace that has pitted men against women on a wider spectrum in the culture leaving behind a shattered marriage/family foundation in society.

Divorce Corp is just one such group that has effectively marketed themselves as a family friendly support group during divorce. Unfortunately, they have systematically targeted every aspect of the family court system that provides support for ex-spouses and children by attacking the value of mothers in the role of marriage and parenting in the process.

On the surface Divorce Corp is absolutely right about many points relating to the massive corruption in the family court system. There are some horrendous rulings across the country that are unfair and simply ridiculous by family court judges who are supposed to know better. However Divorce Corp’s throw-the-baby-out-with-the-bathwater approach to reform will do more harm than good in supporting fair and necessary divorce settlements and ultimately the foundational principles of marriage, family and rule of law.

Instead of lobbying for complete elimination of alimony and child support after divorce, why not lobby to impeach judges who don’t have the ethical constitution to rule on concise state statutes and make common sense judgements within the given facts of each case before them.

There may be a very good reason why the founders of this group are advocating for a complete departure from responsibility/obligation after divorce. They’ve been on the receiving end of some hefty post divorce rulings which required them to shell out substantial sums of money.

Updates in Family Law reported “wealthy business man” and Director of Divorce Corp, Joe Sorge, was ordered by a trial court judge to pay his in excess of $200,000 of his ex’s legal fees in a custody modification and more than $400,000 in retroactive child support in lower and appellate courts.

“Thus, the appellate court upheld the trial court’s attorney fee award and also affirmed, using the analysis above the lower court’s award of pendente lite appeal court attorney fees.”

Somehow Sorge misses the point of how he might be destroying the lives of ex-spouses and children of families who are less affluent than he if child support and alimony were eliminated totally under more reasonable circumstances.

The Divorce Corp site is full of videos and advertisements for a book and movie they are pushing to advance their version of family court reform.

Here’s the trailer of their movie. Again, on the surface it all sounds urgently necessary to scorch the family court earth to end corruption. Unfortunately with the scorched earth they also undermine the foundational principles of marriage and parenting in the process.

If Divorce Corp has its way traditional marriage vows, sacrifices made in marriages, responsibly to care/provide for the children of marriages will all go up in smoke as they work to contribute to the social engineering of it’s demise, all in the name of reform.

And what then becomes of a growing number of women, some men who have sacrificed their own careers in their marriages for the good of the partnerships? Is if fair to just discard the party of a marriage partnership who made career sacrifices in an effort to care for the family? Those ex-partners will increasingly become responsibilities of the state and you and I will foot the bill for those who have been forced into government support programs because their ex spouse will be relinquished of responsibly to provide support after divorce.

Divorce Corp may have great marketing strategies to get the attention of half of the population who will inevitably find themselves divorcing, but be wary. Their version of reform will cost the culture something much more valuable.

Family court reform is a worthwhile venture. So is salvaging the fundamental principles of marriage and family. A culture that walks away from their obligations after divorce is not part of that.

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